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I once brought my vehicle to the tire store. My old tires had worn out very quickly, and I was upset. I told the man at the counter that I was never going back to the old store where I’d bought the tires because they were terrible. I showed him my car, pointed at the tires, and said, “See? I just got those a few months ago.” The attendant was very nice and gentle as he pointed out my problem. “It’s not the tires that are the problem,” explained. “It’s your car’s alignment. It’s way off. I can install new tires for you, but you will be in the same place as you are now in just a few months. Or I can take your car in, do some work to correctly align the car, and then put on new tires. They will last for 35,000 miles.” Our lives work the same way.

Trying to make changes anywhere in our lives without doing the realignment work is just going to get us more of what we’ve been getting all along. Healing a broken picker takes some time and some work, but there’s no other way to get the true, long-term results you desire.

STEP BY STEP

This book contains activities designed to fix your picker. It consists of twelve steps or actions. It’s not a twelve-step program like Alcoholics Anonymous or Narcotics Anonymous. But if you are in a twelve-step program you will be familiar with the idea. I had been working the Twelve Steps in my own recovery for more than seventeen years when I came to the point in my recovery where I realized I needed to do this work. In fact, it was in the rooms of recovery that I first heard the term “broken picker.” It is no coincidence that there are twelve steps or activities. The number twelve is one of those numbers that are meaningful. In numerology, twelve is considered to be the number that forms a complete and perfect harmonious unit. And in spirituality, the number twelve signifies faith and all the aspects of love. In fact, there are twelve aspects of love:

respect

truth

discipline

oneness

compassion

reverence

faith

selflessness

gratitude

open-mindedness

generosity

detachment (freedom/serenity)

What more perfect number could there be for fixing your picker?

The time frame of twelve weeks (give or take) is used because, just as when I needed my tires realigned, work takes time. The activities in this book are about making changes. Most of us are resistant to change; that’s only human. We may have great intentions when we begin a healthy practice, only to find, in short order, we are back to our old routines. But the twelve-week time frame isn’t cast in stone. The actual time you take to complete the steps will depend on where you are in the process when you start out. You’ll modify the program to meet your particular needs.

These twelve steps are designed to address the specific conditions that heal a broken picker. Each action has a specific goal in mind that addresses the different factors that contribute to a broken picker. As you go along with the exercises, I’ll explain why each action is important and how to perform the action, and suggest how long to continue performing it. Effective “picker alignment” is a multilayered process designed to help you develop self-love and improve self-esteem, release and heal old pain, reprogram negative thought patterns, grow spiritually, and finally, discover your true heart’s desires.