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Telling your friends and family that you’re trans is, quite honestly, really, really scary. Just actually saying the words ‘I’m trans’ can seem like the hardest thing in the world. It can be especially scary if you’re worried that your parents or family members won’t understand or accept you. It’s a fear the majority of trans people have had. But I think all trans people will agree that saying those words, explaining them and being true to yourself is one of the most liberating and lifesaving things they have ever done.

The response you get from coming out to someone depends on their environment, how they were raised, what ideas they have about the world and if they actually know people who are trans or somehow lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, intersex or asexual (LGBTQIA+). If this is the first time they’ve actually known someone who might be trans, it could be quite difficult for them to understand and they might need some time to process the idea. It’s important to remember that people are often shocked – the idea of you being trans isn’t something they had considered and it might be very hard for them to come to terms with. Even though this might have been something you’ve known for a very long time, it might be a complete surprise for them. It’s a process for all of you as a family. That being said, coming out as trans should be about you, your wellbeing and your life.

Having family who don’t respond positively or respond downright negatively can be extremely hard. Sometimes families initially respond negatively and take time to come round to the idea. You may even find that someone who is initially upset or ignorant will eventually become your greatest ally.

Ultimately, what you have to do is stick to your truth and try to explain to them that this is who you are and this is how you feel. You coming out as trans is you being your authentic self and it’s vital for your wellbeing to be able to be who you are.