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Dear Greg

When we broke up, he said to “keep in touch and let me know how you’re doing.” So I know that he’s worried about me and still cares about me even if we’re not together anymore. Don’t you think that keeping the lines of communication open will make him realize that he misses me sooner than if we didn’t talk at all?

Lindsay

Dear Communicado,

He said that because saying, “Well, I’m never going to see you again ever” would have been awkward. “Hey, let’s never speak again” or “I don’t want to know how you are” won’t get him out of the breakup conversation as easily. Let’s let him know how you’re doing by NOT calling him. Quite honestly, he’ll be more intrigued by the fact that you didn’t call than if you did. Not keeping the lines of communication open says a lot about somebody. It says they’ve moved on and are not interested in spending their valuable time on someone who doesn’t want to be with them. Here’s the truth: “Keep in touch and let me know how you’re doing” doesn’t actually mean that. The real translation is “I feel bad about this and hope you’ll be okay, but I’m moving on.” And therefore, so should you.