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According to RCT, people are all born with an innate desire to form and sustain connections, and yet disconnections are a natural part of life. Whether disconnections are acute, chronic, or traumatic, despite people’s desire for connection, they may behave in ways that keep them out of the relationships they so badly want. Clarita is experiencing depression, chronic disconnection, and acute loneliness. She feels unworthy and hopeless. Her love for her children sustains her, and she feels tremendous guilt over her inability to care for them adequately.

The counselor would need to respect Clarita’s strategies for disconnection as they arise. She would need to remain humble in knowing that Clarita needs the time and has the wisdom to move at a pace that makes sense to her. During those times when Clarita is unable to sustain connection with the counselor, the counselor would honor that strategy, recognizing it as one born for survival.