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It’s amazing that everyday when you get up out of bed, turn on the news while you are having your morning cup of coffee that you are flooded with an array of news stories of violence. Another statistic, fighting going on over seas, innocent people and children killed in school shootings, suicides, hostage situations, celebrities and people getting divorced, people unemployed, domestic disputes, bullying, political in-differences within our world, protests, putting ourselves on a pedestal to the damnation of others, the list goes on and on. Rarely do we ever hear good news stories in our world.

Looking through my eyes of Curi Osity I ask the question, “Why do people retaliate the way they do?” Doesn’t everyone want to live a life of happiness? Everyday we see people in their daily lives having both minor and major differences at home and at work. You may even be experiencing them yourself. Once again searching to the answer to my question looking through the eyes of Curi Osity I found the simple but very true answer in a statement that my wife Cathy had said to me. Let me explain: I was sitting on the couch with Cathy the other night. I was talking to her and she was talking to me. Not knowing what I was doing I kept talking to her and cutting her off at times she was talking and the sad part of it is I kept her topic short as if I didn’t even hear what she had to say and was talking about what I wanted to say. I didn’t even realize what I was doing. Then the golden moment arrived when my wife had answered the question that I had been searching for. It was right before my eyes of Curi Osity. Cathy stopped me and said, “Larry, you need to work on your listening skills and hear what I too have to say.” She was absolutely right and after thinking about it answered my question of Curi Osity, “Why do we have augmentative in-differences and growing hatred in the world.” The answer was right there before me in what Cathy had said, “You need to work on your LISTENING skills and hear what I have to say.” The solution to the answer was simple, when communicating with other people, we need to empathetically listen and communicate as such through their eyes of Curi Osity. We are all unique and beautiful in our own way, but when we fail to listen and acknowledge the lives of others we create frustration. First and foremost we need to take the time and look in the mirror and get our lives straight and treat others like we treat that person in the mirror. Then we need to pay it forward, to listen to others and really take interest in hearing what they have to say. If they too have bad listening habits then in a nice way we need to give them a gentle nudge. By taking the time to empathetically look into the eyes of Curi Osity of other people and helping them to look into your eyes of Curi Osity and understanding and positively come to communicating and acknowledging each other’s viewpoint then we will all be on the same wavelength.

I have had times when I have had social discussions with another person then a third person comes in and starts bringing up their life and cuts my discussion short and totally pushes me out of the discussion. When I did speak up the discussion was rapidly changed back to them. It’s amazing how you can have a good one-on-one discussion with someone and when another person or persons walk in that the person you are talking to then takes more interest in the people who walked in and quickly shuts you out. Then when the people leave they once again have time for you. That is not right and that is where hatred begins.

I once again look back on the issue of violence in our world. The answer that I came up with after I looked through the eyes of Curi Osity is that we can’t just bandage up a problem by increasing our security. We have to remember that before we fix something that is broken to find out why it broke in the first place. For every rhyme there is a reason. When someone responds there is a catalyst that makes them respond to issues in a certain way. When we give love we get love back. When we show hatred we get hatred back. It is tragic to see the results of hatred and even killings in this world. Everyone comes into this world with one beating heart and one living brain. We are all virgin to the world and enter with a clean slate. We are all equally the same to eventually decide what we want to do with our lives.

When we look through the times of all the tragedy in the world we really need to take a good look at the person in the mirror and look through our eyes of Curi Osity and ask ourselves, “How do I treat others? Have I ever bullied anyone? Have I ever cut anyone down to put myself on a pedestal? Have I ever talked without listening to what was on the other person’s mind? Have I ever walked away from a conversation with someone when another person entered a room only to talk again with that person after the new comer left? Have I sincerely looked and listened to another person empathetically? Have I ever treated someone as a outcast?” We need to take interest and take special interest in the interests of others and listen when they talk and not just our own views. People will be a mirror reflection of the way we treat them. When you treat people as we would treat the person in the mirror you will see that the world will be a better place for all of us. Everyone has feelings and wants to be respected for who they are. What a good feeling within when you spread the joy of life because it will return back to you.