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I know I have talked about this in other chapters of this book, but I wanted to dedicate this one chapter exclusively to developing listening skills in yourself. It is so turnkey to do this one thing in anything you will encounter in life. I have to say that I myself am guilty of poor listening skills. It is vital to attain good listening skills within yourself.

Many times in discussions with my wife Cathy I find myself rattling off at the mouth talking about things that I want to talk about and when she starts talking I cut her short without realizing i’m doing it. The other night Cathy said to me, “You need to take time and take interest in hearing what I have to say and let me talk.” Cathy was so right. It was like a light bulb that had lit up in my head and she gave me the answer to a lot of my questions of Curi Osity by her looking through her eyes.

My questions of Curi Osity grew and this was the magical answer to all of my questions:

Why is there so much violence in the world?

Why do relationships break up?

Why do people retaliate?

Why can’t we come to an agreement?

Why can’t I remember what was said?

The answer was so so simple. When dealing in conversations with other people we just need to stop, look, and LISTEN. Good communication and negotiation skills in people come to those who take the time to stop and empathetically look through the eyes of Curi Osity of the other person and listen to what they have to say. If the other person hasn’t learned such listening skills yet just nicely ask them to please listen and hear what you have to say. Once both people are looking through the eyes of Curi Osity in each other then the connection of good communication and negotiations skills between one another will have then been made and the world will be a much better place.