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Foreword

IF YOU ARE a parent or another “big person” invested in raising and championing a girl, you are holding the most wonderful gift in your hands in the form of this book. Having worked with children and families for many years, there is one thing I know for sure: connection is at the heart of what makes the world go ’round.

The science of child development has irrefutably revealed that the most central need all children everywhere have for healthy development is relational connection. When a child is held in the space of nurturing connection by their special adults in all aspects of their life—home, school, sport, community—something incredible happens in the core of their emotional brain. Neural track gets laid down that promotes regulation, reduces stress, increases resiliency, and fosters optimal outcomes academically, socially, and eventually, professionally.

Sadly, today’s girl is growing up at a time when much of what would once have “just happened” naturally to support her healthy development now has to be carefully mapped out. The cultural norms and social structures of generations past that would have ensured a girl grew up in a general milieu of relational connection have been squashed by the intensity of our fast-paced modern lives. And unfortunately, this erosion of culture and context for her healthy development has also happened at a time when she is most vulnerable. Never before have the pressures and stresses of life been so marked for the growing girl; they bear down upon her in her young years and chase after her as she heads into the classroom and the community. She must be ready to learn, ready to excel, ready to conquer in our current culture of success-seeking social pressures.

What Lindsay Sealey offers in this accessible, applicable, and informed read is brilliant insight into the psyche of the growing girl. This insight forms the foundation of a call to action for parents, teachers, and other adults that Sealey most capably maps out. I have had the privilege of seeing Lindsay Sealey connect to countless parents and teachers, encouraging them to nurture the girls they are growing up. Her remarkable capacity to see through the noise of life and right into the hearts of the girls she supports in her work is what makes her the rarest and most brilliant gem. And it is exactly that wisdom that permeates every page of this book.

So often as adults we want strategies and tools and solutions. We want a magic list of steps to “fix” a perceived problem or sidestep our worries. But never has such a list been proffered that actually works. The problem with coming at things with preconceived lists is that they fail to honour the deeply seated emotional intricacies unique to each person. Lindsay Sealey knows this and has deftly avoided such a trap. Instead, she reveals the profoundly important need that all girls have to connect with their own self. It is only when a girl can find silence in the midst of the world’s chaos that she can truly see herself as a whole, soulful, and worthy being. From a place of understanding who she is, a girl can then confidently walk forward in sharing her light with the world around her. It is when we have connected to ourselves in caring and compassionate ways that we can then connect with others empathically and supportively.

As an adult, when you give a girl your time, your interest, your enthusiasm, your confidence, you create an environment for inner growth that will most certainly propel her forward in a way that she can then meaningfully connect with and contribute to her world. And from there, anything is possible. Change-maker, innovation seeker, compassion warrior. Whatever your girl sets her sights on will be possible when she has the most cherished experience of growing up in connection with you, connection with others, and eventually, connection with the world.

Growing Strong Girls provides the foundation for understanding why connection is so important—from the inside out. You can transform this understanding into action. Perhaps you only need some affirmation that you are on the right track, or maybe you are feeling absolutely bereft at having “lost” your girl to the pressures of the world. Either way, you have landed precisely where you needed to because you are reading this book.

As Lindsay Sealey will show you, there is always hope. Your girl needs you and all you need to do to be the answer for her as she charts her course forward is to be present. In your presence, you create a space for her to grow. There is an intangible invitation for her to exist. There is emotional safety and rest that releases her to find courage. And when a girl can connect with that, there is no telling what she will be capable of. If all the adults everywhere could live and breathe the wisdom contained in Growing Strong Girls, we could change the world. . . one strong girl at a time!

Dr. Vanessa Lapointe, R. Psych

Founder of the Wishing Star Lapointe Developmental Clinic and author of Discipline Without Damage: How to Get Your Kids to Behave Without Messing Them Up Vancouver, 2017