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Martha’s style of parenting is called attachment parenting, a style that brings out the best in parents and baby. Attachment parenting begins with being open to the cues and needs of your baby, without fretting about spoiling or being manipulated. It gets discipline off to a good start by helping you get to know your baby. Alternatively, parenting styles that place the emphasis on parents getting their babies on a set schedule, under control, are likely to keep you from connecting with your baby and can undermine the development of true discipline.

By knowing your child you learn her needs and preferences at each stage of development. You are able to understand why she behaves a certain way, what situations promote desirable behaviour, and which ones produce undesirable behaviour. You help her feel right by setting conditions that promote the best behaviour. The child who feels right acts right. She operates from an inner sense of well-being and so is less impulsive, less angry, and less likely to misbehave. Attachment parenting will help you reach two goals: to know your child and to help your child feel right. These two goals form the cornerstone of a strong disciplinary relationship with your child. Six features of attachment parenting that will help you get connected and shape the relationship between you and your baby are: responding to your baby’s cues, breastfeeding, wearing your baby, spending time playing with your baby, sharing sleep, and being a facilitator. Here’s how each of these attachments contributes to discipline.