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After you have contemplated these affirmations for a little while, write about each of the three previous experiences and how each one activated strengths in you; how you became a better, stronger, wiser person in some way; and how you experienced some positive outcomes from the experience or strengthened a relationship because of the perceived harmful experience. Focus not only on the positive benefits to you in the past but also on the potential benefits for you in the future.

APRIL'S RESPONSE ABOUT LAST YEAR

After everything that happened with my grandmom, I realize the importance of being dependent on myself and no one else. I think that maybe she has things going on in her own life that are causing her pain. I also realized that I don't want to surround myself with negativity because it won't help me have a positive attitude.

APRIL'S RESPONSE ABOUT EARLIER IN LIFE

My relationship with my mom has come a long way. I decided the only way to have her in my life was to forgive her for the past. I learned how to communicate with her better. I now understand that part of the reason we didn't get along was because we were so much alike.

APRIL'S RESPONSE ABOUT HERSELF

From this experience, I learned that there are many things in my life that are sometimes beyond our control. I've tried to stop blaming myself for that day and realize that even if I came downstairs a few minutes sooner, it wouldn't have mattered. It was my dad's choice not to create a healthy lifestyle for himself.