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The culture of the 1980s and 1990s has produced many tough-hearted women and many more soft-hearted men. This does create a new set of problems from those who gained experience in earlier times.

For years women complained about the pushiness of males, saying they were domineering, insensitive, and so on. Fair enough. But a different kind of complaint has arisen in recent years. Many of today’s men have been so filled with the need to be considerate and supportive that they back off from the really lustful pursuit and assertiveness that characterizes spirited sexuality.

We talk with many young women these days who are frustrated by the wimpishness of their men, in bed and out, even though this kind of softer man was what women for a time thought they wanted. Sensitive, yes, but uncertain and childlike, no!

You can be lustfully pleasure-seeking, and also considerate and aware. You can give pleasure fiercely, and take it fiercely. It’s a matter of communication, trust, and letting each other know what is wanted and not wanted, without offence. It takes time to develop this. Sometimes decades. When the conditions are right, most women, and most men, find unbridled passion extremely pleasing.