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The phrase ‘making love’ has come about because it describes so poetically an ideal we all seek. When you get sexuality right, making love is exactly what you are doing. It’s not the same as just fucking (though it includes the vigour and earthiness of this lovely Anglo Saxon term). Nor is it the rather fey-sounding ‘bonking’ of the postmodern gender neutral generation. Your heart opens (softens and beats more powerfully), your genitals open (moisten and enlarge), your mind opens (sharpens and sparkles), to let the other person in at every level. Achieving this is rarely rapid, and can never be a passing thing.

Once you have made LOVE, then just ‘having sex’ will never do. Teenagers ‘fall in’ love; adults ‘make’ love. It is a flame which a skilful human being learns to kindle. In a day-to-day relationship the flame flickers, dies down and flares up again, as we learn to tend it skilfully. Our efforts are rewarded. Love starts as a blessing, even a fluke, but it continues as an achievement.