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Self-understanding is the basis of self-concept. To understand yourself, you must understand how you operate in the world. Psychiatrist Eric Berne believes that we enact identity scripts—the rules for living we learned while growing up that spell out our roles and how to play them.³⁹ Berne finds that we are apt to pattern our interactions in such a way that we repeatedly enact the same script but with different sets of players. We might, for example, repeatedly enact life scenes in which we express the belief that others are out to get us, or that they are jealous of us. This urge to repeat these scripts becomes a problem when doing so causes us to fail.

The remedy is to become aware of the scripts we enact, identify those that are unproductive, and rewrite them. Once we are in control of the scripts we use, taking part as an active player, we put ourselves in a better position to script our own lives.