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1 If my partner and I really love one another enough, none of our problems or personality differences will threaten the existence of our relationship.

2 If I am finally with the right person, I won’t ever be really attracted to someone else, because I will be so in love.

3 If it’s really true love, I’d know the moment I see the person for the first time.

4 The right relationship will always be interesting and exciting.

5 If it’s really true love, I won’t feel complete and whole when I’m not with my partner.

6 The sex in a relationship can’t be really fabulous unless it is true love.

7 My perfect partner will give me everything I need and will fill in all the empty spaces in my life—I won’t really need anyone else.

8 If I’m really in love, I’ll feel excited and nervous each time I see my partner; being with him/her will give me goose bumps.

9 If I’m with the right person, we will be so in tune with each other, we’ll always know how the other person is feeling.

10 If I’m in the right relationship, it will feel naturally harmonious, and we won’t have to work that hard to make it work.

Now total up your points:

80–100 Points: Congratulations! You have a high love IQ. You are realistic in your understanding of relationships and realize that love is not enough to make a relationship work—it takes communication, compatibility, and hard work. To avoid future problems, work on those areas in which you have a low score.

60–79 Points: Your love IQ isn’t bad, but it could be better. You are still letting your romantic ideals and fantasies determine your attitudes about relationships. Pay more attention to how you are feeling and not to how you want the relationship to look. Don’t be so afraid of conflict. Remind yourself that true love doesn’t mean things have to be ‘perfect’ all the time. The exercises in this book will help you raise your Love IQ.

40–59 Points: Warning! Your Love IQ is dangerously low, but you probably already know this because you have been hurt so much in relationships. The reason you continue to be disappointed in love is that you don’t pay enough attention to whom you are with. You put your partners on a pedestal and are more ‘in love with love’ than with them. If you want to stop suffering and be happier, you will need to make some major changes in the way you choose and behave in relationships. Use the information in the rest of this book to become much smarter about love.

0–39 Points: Emergency! Your Love IQ is so low that you are guaranteed to get your heart broken over and over again. Your love life needs immediate attention. It’s time to grow up and leave your fantasy world behind. Your relationships can work, but only if you commit yourself to understanding what you’ve been doing wrong and learn how to make better choices for yourself. Stop blaming the partners who have let you down and take a good, hard look at how you set up relationships to fail from the beginning. The rest of this book will help you find the answers you need to create healthy relationships.

If you ended up with a very low Love IQ, don’t feel too badly. When I first devised this quiz and took it myself, I scored a meager 28 points! Obviously I knew that these ten statements about love were unhealthy attitudes, but I tried to be totally honest with myself about how I have viewed love in my past, and that’s how I scored 28 points. By the time you finish reading this book, your Love IQ will be much higher and your confidence in your ability to make successful love choices will be much greater.