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Jonathan’s childhood was characterized by the dominance of his strict father, who wanted Jonathan to be ‘a success in life’. Being a very sensitive and caring child who loved animals and art, Jonathan did not fit in well with the role he was being forced to play. When Jonathan arrived home from school, he wasn’t allowed to play with his friends, watch television or draw. If he didn’t have homework from school, his dad set some for him to do. He was forced to play rugby and take part in judo, even though he hated these contact sports. He was, however, quite a good long-distance runner, but instead of being able to enjoy his talent his father killed his enthusiasm. Jonathan told me about a time when he was leading a race but ran out of stamina and was overtaken in the last leg. He was runner-up in the race, but his father was furious that he had allowed himself to be overtaken.

Jonathan was only in his early twenties and at university when he had a nervous breakdown. He was doing all the things he thought he was meant to do in order to enjoy life, such as going to football matches with his friends and for drinking sessions at the pub, but inside he was empty and unhappy and he didn’t know why.

Jonathan came to me because he instinctively knew that the drugs he had been given for his breakdown were only masking the symptoms. He didn’t know what to expect, or even if I could help him, but he knew that there had to be another way He happily changed his diet and started to detoxify. He was so thrilled that someone understood what he was going through and was offering him a way out of his trauma. As Jonathan detoxified he was able to work through some of the issues in his past, though now he was able to see what went on from a more mature perspective.

Jonathan still spoke to his father regularly but he hated their phone calls or meetings because his father still tried to tell him what to do. A real breakthrough occurred when Jonathan stood up for himself one day and told his father what HE thought and what HE was going to do. His father refused to speak to him for quite a few weeks but Jonathan didn’t back down. He also worked through the anger he felt towards his mother for not sticking up for him when he was a child. Eventually, Jonathan was able to build up a relationship with both his parents. It was never going to be easy because his parents hadn’t moved on and Jonathan had. However, he was able to accept them for what they were—and even forgive them for the past—and carry on to complete for himself the job of parenting. Jonathan started to develop a strong psychic talent as he tapped into his feminine side. I’m not sure where this will take him, as he is still young, but he is now open to whatever the universe has in mind. It hasn’t been an easy path for him and he has suffered great pain and loneliness along the way. The things that are important to him now do not fit in with his old lifestyle—or that of the youth culture of today—but as the years go by he will meet others on similar paths and his true purpose will be revealed to him. However, what he is going through now is nothing in comparison to the pain and torment he was suffering. He has gained an inner strength and peace and an understanding that will hopefully enable him to reach his potential and make a difference during his time on this planet.

Tom is another male client who had to contend with a strong father who struggled to associate feminine, creative qualities with his image of masculinity. For Tom to be a writer, and to learn to feel comfortable in that career, has entailed a lot of soul searching and hard work. I’m looking forward to seeing his success as he taps into his true feminine creativity and leaves behind his past conditioning. Here, Tom tells his own story.