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Mo-Dad

Do men tuck nurturing, tenderness into unspeakable places

looking on when children fall and are bruised with stone faces?

Society dictates they keep dearer sentiments buried deeply somewhere

deemed unmanly to surface for more that a blink, a hint of a care.

Intense barber shop politics and sports conditioning are partly responsible for this tribal commissioning.

Permission to purge should understandably be event driven

lest verbal/body language disapprovals will expressly be given…

With these stereotypes in constant circulation

how do fathers nurture freely without frustration

When finding themselves custodial parents of a child;

performing, tasking, keeping them from running wild?

As all women aren’t intrinsic nurtures as studies have alluded,

all dads aren’t without innate capabilities- as formerly concluded.

Let us not detract, deflect glory away from fatherly men

deserving applause now, most certainly when they begin

uneasy assignments solitary or otherwise

as constant dads in their own children’s lives.

Despite…

Seen and unforeseen forces trying to alienate:

employment circumstances acting to separate;

Mothers seeking retribution for perceived treatments unjust

enlisting community support biassed ostracizing him in disgust

without recognizing there could be another side

without a guilty party- just life hitching onto detour’s ride;

uncertainties, greener grass; chemistries not mixing,

preferences, crossed lines; changes not worth fixing.

Mothers dying off, strung out, breaking down and walking away

explain why more males are left as single “mo-dad’s” today

Kudos to those men remaining patient, available,

courageous, enduring with pride unassailable

Despite…

Vindictive people, faltering times using children as bait;

economic injustices, profiling promulgating hate.

Single dads, you are valued, honored, respected, treasured

Your work’s been counted, noted, collected and measured.

It helps define standards for a new male order who might also be asked

to discard old mores to adopt nurturing- formerly considered a feminine task.

Thanks for good sense in setting your own loving standards so children thrive

knowing they need emotions to develop, stay healthy to live not just survive

when they fall- and they will!

No one claims possession of a pill

guarding fully against even a trip,

fever, pain, failure or busted lip…

But when they fall, it’s good dad’s send them on with a nod or a hug,

showing tough gentle love patching bruises with that needed fatherly plug.

How do “Mo-dads” nurture freely without frustration?

By looking into children’s eyes seeing adoration,

appreciation for the daunting task of solo jobs well done.

Despite the sacrifice, single father’s know nothing’s won

until adult kids are out and on their own

decidedly responsible rejecting lesser choices well known.

And in turn when their children’s parenting opportunities present

they too will have grown sons into men continuing to represent!