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9. Hold Me Down

Not all sexual restraint games require bondage equipment to play. Sometimes, the weight of a partner’s body is just as arousing. This is especially true for female submissives who enjoy being held down and “taken” by their male dominant. This allows both partners to indulge in force fantasies.

Although very taboo, consensual force fantasies are a popular element of many couples’ sex lives, both in the mainstream and BDSM community. This type of erotic escapism allows male dominants to “let go” and indulge their more primal, basic desires while simultaneously allowing female submissives to enjoy their partner’s brute strength and sexuality. The female submissive can also enjoy guilt-free sex. Because she cannot resist, she has no option but to be used as a sexual object and experience sexual feelings.

BDSM force fantasies run the gamut from lukewarm to scalding. Beginners may wish to focus on basic bodily restraint. For example, the male dominant may hold his submissive in position by her hair during penetration. He may also push her body against a wall or lean her over a dresser as he has his way with her: if this is your game plan, make sure there are no religious icons or photos of your mother-in-law on the dresser. Talk about mood breakers. A male submissive may imagine that he has ingested a drug that has temporarily rendered him paralyzed and unable to resist his female dominant’s unwanted sexual advances. The poor boy.