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Dear Greg,

My last boyfriend cheated on me with some girl from his office. The boyfriend before that cheated on me with a mutual friend and the boyfriend I had before that was just an asshole. I don’t know why, but I stayed with all of these men for long after I had identified their problems. I don’t know how to rebuild my self-esteem after so many blows to the ego.

Claire

Minneapolis, MN

Dear Loser Magnet,

Holy smokes! You do have the winning ticket to the loser lotto. Do you know the phrase “Water seeks it’s own level”? The same goes for losers. That doesn’t mean that I’m calling you a loser but what I am saying is that you are comfortable with them and you allow them to be the losers they are in your company. What that does mean is that there’s something in your mechanics that tells you that you don’t deserve better than this and whatever that is needs a fixing. To rebuild your self-esteem you need to surround yourself with people that make you feel good and bring out the best in you, take care of your well-being without exception and line up some tiny victories. It’s only when you get to the place where you think you’re worthy of a good relationship that you’ll find one. So kick the losers to the curb and get some help for whatever’s ailing your self-worth.