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Dear Greg,

I’m 42 years old, I own my own company, I have a lot of great friends, a great relationship with my family and I’ve lost over a hundred pounds in the past year so I’m in fantastic shape for the first time in my life. In other words I’m not f@#ked up. But I’m starting to feel like I’m going to spend my life alone. I go to clubs, bars, cocktail parties, dog parks, you name it but no one seems to notice me and I can’t get asked out. What do I do? I’m really lost in this part of my life.

Anika

Ft Lauderdale, FL

Dear Weighed Down,

Firstly, congratulations on doing so many things right in your life and taking control of your health and weight. Bravo to you. Here’s what I think is happening, you’re used to being overweight and probably have been overweight your whole life. So even though you like yourself and have shed the extra pounds you still feel like the fat girl and probably carry yourself as such. That means you’re projecting old ideas about yourself onto the new you and taking those out into the world and people respond thusly. People aren’t noticing you because you don’t feel noteworthy still. So let’s stop that business right now because you didn’t do all of that work to lose. If it means standing in front of the mirror every day or leaving yourself a voice message that says, “I am now a new person, have you seen my butt?” then do it, because like every person reading this you’re great and you deserve to be in a great relationship, but it will only happen not only if you like yourself and feel worthy of it but also project that out into the world as well.