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The moment you lose something as precious as your life-partner it is only natural to want to take immediate action to try to persuade him or her to return. But despite what you think, you're not ready to do that yet.

Before you take any action at all that involves your ex you must first get your head on straight. Many people have lost the love of their life by making rash decisions and taking spur of the moment actions without first taking a little time to get their mind straight. It's sad because in many of these cases they could have saved their relationships by just taking a little time to pause and think.

Don't be one of them. Don't live the rest of your life with regret because you allowed a moment of desperation to dictate your next move. Don't destroy your chances of getting back together by letting the fear of never getting your ex back influence you to do or say the wrong thing at the wrong time. And let's be clear, right now is the wrong time to do or say virtually anything at all to your ex. At this very moment in time your internal and external dialogue needs to be directed not at your ex but at yourself.

Think of your lost relationship as being similar to an open fire. When the fire is burning bright it is much easier to keep going as there is plenty of flame to catch on to new wood, but as the fire begins to dwindle it becomes harder to keep alight. When the fire almost dies, there may be a few embers left that can be used to reignite the fire, but you must use them carefully. Rather than simply throw a large chunk of wood on those embers, you need to add tinder, fan them, and allow a small flame to catch, allow it to grow, and slowly nurture it into a larger flame before it will once again catch the chunk of wood and burn bright again. A failure to grow the embers slowly but steadily will see them die at which point any chance of creating another full and brightly burning fire will be lost.

If you try to save your relationship but fail to take the time to get your head straight, it will be just like throwing a large chunk of wood on dwindling embers. The chance it will catch will be virtually zero but the chance the fire will die completely will be high indeed, if not a given.

Before we continue, it is important that you don't confuse "getting your head straight" with "getting over your ex." At this moment in time you're hurting and no amount of thinking, planning, understanding or awareness is going to change that, at least, not overnight. So don't expect it to. Don't place pressure on yourself right now to achieve anything. When we say it's time to get your head on straight, we mean it's time to start the process, nothing more. So let's start.