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Remember, the key to creating your list of possible reasons that contributed to ruin your relationship is to ignore blaming anyone in favor of just being honest about the many things that you (or they) did that worked against rather than for a healthy relationship. If you're honest, and if you've written everything down that comes to mind, then your list should be filled with a number of things that you said or did - or didn't say or didn't do - that may have added up as straws to break the camel's back. Remind yourself that it's never one thing that ends a relationship; it is always many things compounded. The "one thing" you think caused your breakup is usually just the final straw.

For this reason, the list you now hold in your hands is extremely important to the future of your relationship with your ex. The items you've brainstormed may each have contributed to your ex leaving you. Sure, some of the items on this list may have little or no bearing on your ex's decision to leave but the mere fact that you included them on the list is an indication that you feel they may have. For this reason they are important because, as you will see later, restoring your relationship is of no value if you are unable to prevent yourself from walking down the same path again and ruining it once and for all.

Review everything on your list. Don't critique any item, or cross any item off just yet. Just review it. As you do, be sure to write down any additional thoughts or items that come to mind. Keep doing this until you feel your list is extensive and covers everything that may have worked to sour what you had with your ex.