Читать книгу The Fussy Baby Book: Parenting your high-need child from birth to five - Martha Sears - Страница 47

In order for children’s high needs to work to their long-term advantage, their outward personality must accurately reflect their inner need level. Suppose an infant is born needing to be held a lot, fed frequently, and responded to in a consistent, nurturing manner. (Actually, all babies are like this.) Suppose that infant also has a rather laid-back personality and seems to be an “easy” baby. This baby would be at a disadvantage because his body language would convey that he did not need to be held much. On the other hand, a baby whose high need level is matched with a persistent, expressive personality will get what he needs. His cries will demand a response, and his compelling body language will ensure that he is picked up, held, and fed. Although more exhausting to parents, this baby is more likely to thrive because his need level is reflected in a personality that knows how to get those needs met.