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Part I

Instructions: Here are some guidelines as you edit your own list.

•If you chose not to answer some sentences, or add in others, please do.

•Remember, this inventory is unique and personal to you. It is meant to acquaint you with the person you are and the person you may strive to become.

•It is best to complete this inventory within a few days.

•Some questions may conjure memories of days gone by, be they positive or negative, and you may feel compelled to write more than a few sentences. That’s good!

•Some unfinished sentences can remain unfinished, especially if you are not ready to face some issues and the feelings they may elicit.

•Please make note of the sentences you choose to skip at this time, as they may be covering unfinished business. You can always go back to them at a later time, when you are ready.

I believe I am a good person because…

I believe I am a good friend because…

I have never really learned to roll with the punches because…

I am without anxiety only when…

I don’t believe that people will like me if they actually knew…

One of the secrets I have been carrying for a long time is…

I am ashamed of…

One of my saddest experiences was…

The happiest day of my life was…

In springtime I feel…

When I see a newborn baby I feel…

When I see an old person I think about…

The person I miss the most is … because…

When I was young my worst fear was…

I believe (or don’t believe) that I am lovable because…

When I can’t sleep in the dark of night my thoughts turn to…

I pretend that I like…

If I could change my life I would do…

I hope that on my deathbed I don’t regret…

Part II

After you have completed your inventory take some time to go back to each line item and recall a person or event that may have influenced your perception of yourself and your accomplishments or failures with regard to that issue or item. Now that time has intervened, some space exists between your perceptions of yourself and those implied by others. This may allow you to re-evaluate their opinions, and perhaps to unearth their hidden agendas around you, which might have been previously missed. This investigation may be emotionally challenging, but this exercise will assist you in becoming more in touch with yourself and your feelings.