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Rebecca’s story is an example of the importance of having a more complete sense of yourself. Without this, you may be easily swayed by the opinions of others based upon nothing more than your lack of confidence. In Rebecca’s case, once she recognized that no one parent has all of the answers, and that no one method of parenting is better or worse than the other—as long as the method involves love, boundaries, praise and consequences within reason of a child’s level of emotional and physical maturity—she moved forward with eager enthusiasm and enjoyment in her role as a step-parent. More importantly, she was viewed by the outside world as an individual who made good decisions and with whom the children could be trusted.

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If you are unsure of who you are (and who isn’t to some degree), you need to really work on asking yourself important questions that can help you to gain insight. If people perceive you in a manner that is unfair and inaccurate—a common scenario—take a step back from this identification. You do not have to behave according to their expectations. What would it mean to be true to yours?

Children are great judges of character; they can spot an impostor from a mile away, and worse, have no qualms about exposing you. They are also forgiving. If they know you are doing the best you can, that you may make some mistakes along the way, but that you always have their best interest at heart, they will support, defend, and love you.