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If you work at having a good relationship with your teenagers, they are more likely to bring their friends home. Actively encourage this so that you get to know your teenager’s friends, and when your children are at your home with their friends, you know exactly where they are and with whom (two big worries out of the way!).

However, don’t be surprised if when you first suggest they have some friends over they may be a bit hesitant because they don’t want to be embarrassed (by you) and they still want to appear cool, so before they come around it’s best to talk to your teenager about the visit to avoid any pitfalls. Don’t forget, as this is your home and your domain, when your teenager has friends over, you will be the one doing most of the compromising.

First, explain to your teen what you would expect. Point out where their friends can put their coats and shoes (you may be a parent who doesn’t want six pairs of size 10 trainers on your front doormat), that you would like to meet the friends, so before they disappear into a room they could pass by the kitchen to be introduced. Explain that you do not want to hear foul language emanating from their room which should be enough of a warning to make sure your teen keeps his or her friends under control.