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It's up to you to choose how you'll fill the seats at your table and what priority you'll give to each one, and you need to choose wisely. Unfortunately, some people bring the wrong emotions, actions and traits to their table. Offence and anger definitely have no place there. Some people bring bad habits or addictions, some an insistence that they are not good or worthy enough. Some believe they are not loved or don't belong at the table, or simply don't know what to do there.

To help work out what you should focus on and what best suits your situation, seek advice from people you trust. At Speakers Institute I have an advisory board I rely on and trust. These are people who have achieved things I haven't done yet. They have attained a place in their career that I have yet to reach. Also, I have observed their character and how each of them work for others in their own businesses — how they respect people and live according to their own values. These people listen to me and we work together to decide which attributes, emotions and actions I should bring to my table and how I can use them every day.

When looking for your own mentors and advisers, ask these questions:

 Do they have experience and success in areas where you have yet to build experience?

 Is their character and integrity evident in their actions?

 Can you learn from and grow through them?

 Will they hold you accountable?

It's essential to be accountable to someone. So many people think they can become influencers on their own without actually being transparent or accountable to anyone else. That's not sustainable; we can't make real progress on our own. We all need someone to challenge us on what we believe in, to ask us why we are doing something or acting in a certain way. And to ask practical questions: Are we meeting our goals and targets? Are we treating our staff well? Are we leading successfully?