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I Choose to L.I.V.E.

a person not realizing the existence of an internal struggle. For example, some people will look away from themselves rather than toward themselves for the source of their problem.

The outside-in type tries to create an environment that enables their rewards of the external world to dominate their internal struggle. The goal is to empower external success so much that the internal struggle becomes dormant or seemingly non-existent all together. Unfortunately, this type of person has failed to recognize that it is impossible to conquer anything that he or she is not willing to confront. In the end, the outside-in type of person uses external success to create a facade that everyone else has come to believe is unpretentious.

Furthermore, the outside-in type of person is also more susceptible to being controlled by bondage. This person can become so engulfed in maintaining a fabricated character that their bondage may not be realized. To accompany this type, I have classified the following four categories of bondage: Material Possession, Professional Achievement, Social Status, and Aesthetic Appeal.

These four categories are not innately harmful, but these categories are often manipulated in a way that leads to an unhealthy relationship. Typically, bondage does not operate alone and partners up with a type of mask or camouflage. In this setting, I define bondage as what holds a person captive and camouflage as how that person dwells in that particular captivity. The outside-in type of person is a camouflage champion and focuses on concealing or altering the truth.

Material Possession

I define the bondage of Material Possession as when a person allows their personal value to be held hostage to the tangible property that they have acquired. I am referring to tangible items like clothing, houses, vehicles, and other things that are obtained to accommodate a person’s desires. I am also talking about the material items that even cause some people to live beyond their financial resources. Some people are simply