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Chapter 1

LOVE

Love can be expressed by using verbal as well as non-verbal communication. Some people express genuine and unselfish love toward others with ease. Some people depend on the love of others as a sense of security and validation. Love is a powerful force of emotion and stimulates people to act in a variety of ways. Unfortunately, I believe that love is too often misinterpreted, misused, and misplaced. In addition, I recognize that many people are in bondage, but they do not realize the existence of their personal chains. An external force is not always the culprit of bondage, but bondage can also be self-inflicted. In either case, bondage can influence how you determine your personal value and affect how you love yourself. I ask, “Do you love yourself ‘outside-in’ or ‘inside-out’”?

Outside-In Type

I describe the “outside-in” type as a person who concentrates on presenting an appearance that is highly commended by others in an effort to conceal an internal struggle. In simple words, this type of person relies on external success to eliminate internal mess. I have discovered that this type of person does not possess humility as a strong suit while trying to deny an internal struggle. I am talking about an internal struggle like, but not limited to, bitterness, shame, insecurity, self-esteem or unforgiveness. I believe that misguided blame can also lead to