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Before continuing your reading of this chapter, which of the following five statements do you believe to be true, and which do you believe to be false?

1 People with high self-esteem are less likely to be bullies. T F

2 Your perceived self is the one others see. T F

3 Engaging in face-work improves your looks. T F

4 Positive expectations have no impact on performance. T F

5 Childhood experiences influence our ideas about gender. T F

Read the chapter to discover if you’re right or if you’ve made any erroneous assumptions.

ANSWERS: 1. F; 2. F; 3. F; 4. F; 5. T

How we see ourselves and how we imagine others see us affects our communication presence and relationships.

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Do you know yourself? Consider these questions: Who are you? What do you think of yourself? Do you consider your relationship with yourself to be a good one? When you evaluate yourself, do you characteristically give yourself a thumbs-up or a thumbs-down?

This chapter offers you the opportunity to develop self-awareness as you reflect on and monitor your physical and digital presence. It encourages you to explore the nature of the self and identity; to analyze how culture, gender, media, and technology influence self-concept; and to examine how the intrapersonal level of communication (the individual level, the communicating you do with yourself) affects the choices you make, your behavior, judgments of your interpersonal presence, and your relationships.

The poet–philosopher Alan Watts noted, “Trying to define yourself is like trying to bite your own teeth.”⁵ Exactly how confident are you that you really know yourself? And how willing are you to try to get to know yourself better?

Who you think you are and how you think about yourself in relationship to others influences every one of your interpersonal contacts. What you think of yourself is your baseline, your starting point for communication.