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Ladies: Men Need to Hear Compliments about Their Cock

Try some of these on:

•You have a beautiful cock

•I am so honored to touch your cock

•I love the way your cock tastes and smells

•I love your cock and the way it feels against my skin, in my mouth, in my pussy

•Thank you for sharing your cock with me

You have no idea how emotional men can get when they hear these compliments coming from you. Jim recently contacted me to thank me for the relaxation skills I taught him, which have been helpful in his new career in the adult film entertainment industry. He is definitely over his cock shame!

Pussy Shame

Women are certainly not immune from genital shame. Many women hate the look and smell of their vaginas. More so than men, many women have a really difficult time touching themselves, and a huge percentage have never looked at their own vaginas.

My Vagina is Normal!: Annie’s Story

It was a beautiful October day and I was enjoying a break between clients when my phone rang. A woman on the other end started crying the minute she heard my voice. It took a moment for me to realize that this was not a prank call but someone in real distress. Annie told me that she was scheduled to have labia plastic surgery in a week. She was having second thoughts and had read one of my blog posts begging women not to have the surgery. “I hate the way I look down there,” she said. “My lips hang down, I have all this flesh covering me. I don’t feel sexy and it turns off my partner.” In between sobs, she told me that she never touched her pussy with her hands and rubbed against a sheet to masturbate. “I don’t look like any of the women in the porn we watch!” she cried.

When Annie came to see me, I shared with her the book Femalia by Joani Blank, which contains pictures of hundreds of vaginas, in all different shapes, colors, and sizes. She was shocked to see the variety of vaginas and even identified a few that were shaped like hers.4 We also read about “female genital anatomy types” from The Sexual Practices of Quodoushka: Teachings from the Nagual Tradition. Quodoushka is a Native American based sacred sexuality practice, much like Tantra. They have identified nine different female and male genital types, all of which are given animal names and powers (e.g., Wolf Woman, Deer Woman). According to the tradition, each type has its own set of characteristics: physical, emotional, temperament, sexual preferences, and orgasmic qualities.5 A big smile broke out on Annie’s face when she read the description of the Antelope Woman. “That’s me!” she exclaimed, relieved that her pussy was normal.