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Monitor your personal power and look for ways in which you are voluntarily giving it away. It takes hard work, but increasing your mental strength requires you to retain every ounce of personal power for yourself.

What’s Helpful

Using language that acknowledges your choice such as, “I’m choosing to . . .”

Setting healthy emotional and physical boundaries with people

Behaving proactively by making conscious choices about how you’ll respond to others

Taking full responsibility for how you choose to spend your time and energy

Choosing to forgive individuals regardless of whether they seek to make amends

Willingness to examine feedback and criticism without jumping to conclusions

What’s Not Helpful

Using language that implies you’re a victim, such as “I have to do this,” or “My boss makes me so mad”

Feeling anger and resentment toward people you allow to infringe on your rights

Reacting to others and then blaming them for the way you handled yourself

Doing things you don’t want to do and then blaming others for “making” you do it

Choosing to hold a grudge and harbor anger and resentment

Allowing feedback and criticism to control how you feel about yourself