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If perfectionism had a cousin, it would be control. You probably know exactly what we’re talking about since we all have at least some desire to control things. But what we choose to control has a huge impact on our quality of life.

If your days are jammed packed with activities and commitments, how do you describe your life? Do you say “my life is full, busy, and happy,” or do you say, “I’m always so stressed, busy, and tired.” On the one hand, if you are choosing the right things to control, you are probably enjoying the “life is full and happy” feeling. On the other hand, if you have a high need to control and expend a lot of energy regulating everything all the time, you will be worn out and frustrated.

So how do you know if you are controlling the right things? Part of the answer lies in determining your “want and can” area. Take a look at Figure 1.