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While anger, frustration, and hurt can be clues that lead you to establish your boundaries, you need to diffuse them so you can plan an effective boundary and implement it well. You have probably run into situations where others have let their emotions interfere with managing their boundaries. The classic example is a sales clerk who tells you with an attitude, “I can’t help you right now because I am off in five minutes.” It’s not the schedule we object to, but the way the sales clerk projected her emotion about her boundary. So before you define and implement your boundary, talk to someone about your feelings, role-play with a friend or partner, or write in a journal.