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Many of us use phrases like “It’s true that…”, “That is wrong”, “That is totally right…”, “I believe that…”, “Well that’s a matter of opinion, but this is indisputable…”, “My opinion is…”, “According to my perspective…”. These are all statements of beliefs.

According to your model of the world something may appear to be a fact when it is really a very deeply held belief.

As we grow up we begin to take on views of the world. We can’t help doing this. We have to believe something otherwise there would be just too much raw information swishing about. As we develop beliefs we often tend to focus on the information that supports our existing beliefs so they become stronger. It tends to be less often that we notice information that undermines existing beliefs and disproves them.

one minute wonder ‘Am/am not’ statements are a great way to uncover subconscious beliefs. Listen out for people making statements like: I am…I am not…; My friends are…my friends are not…; Life is…life is not…; The world is…the world is not…; Business is…business is not…; My future is…my future is not…

“It doesn’t matter where you are coming from. All that matters is where you are going.”

Brian Tracy, performance coach

If you hold lots of deep beliefs it can make you very rigid in your thinking and give rise to other strong opinions. It may result in an inflexible model of the world. If you have very rigid beliefs you may clash with other people who hold very different models of the world. Just think about some of the great conflicts in the wider world. They take place between different groups who firmly believe their opinions to be right and who cannot find a meeting place with their enemies’ beliefs.

You can begin to uncover your beliefs very simply. Just ask yourself:

• What do I believe about business / work / other areas?

• Or write down, “I believe…(about this area of my life). I do not believe…(about another area).”

This will uncover some basic beliefs that you might not have been fully conscious of.

If you want to change the results in your life, then scrutinize your beliefs. If they are blocking your success, then start thinking about what other beliefs might be useful to you.

Identify your beliefs and ask yourself if they support you in being successful.