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What binds a couple together isn’t their appearance, collection of funny anecdotes, or any one personality trait but rather their overall chemistry, how their personalities mesh with one another. You can’t really tell that without spending some time together. First impressions are important, no doubt, but love at first sight is rare. And if you fall in love with someone by looking at their picture on your phone, I can predict the relationship won’t end well, if it develops at all.

All these apps and other technological inventions offer incredible convenience, but they also have their limitations. All you can tell by looking at someone’s photo is that you like how they look in that particular (most likely photoshopped) picture. But in order to judge whether or not they’d make a good romantic partner, you need a lot more physical co-mingling of your personalities.

Life isn’t a Twitter feed. No one person is going to be able to offer you a constant flow of witty conversation day in and day out. There are many subtle qualities that go into what makes someone a good partner, and which take time to be appreciated. So while I’m not saying not to use apps to find dates, I am saying not to let the app mentally ruin your chances of turning a date into a partner. No matter how fast your fingers can swipe, when the time comes to actually be standing side by side, slow down.