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If you are too invested in whether or not a date will turn into a long-term romance, you actually make it more difficult for romance to bloom. If you’re overly concerned about what your date does for a living, whether or not he or she will make the perfect spouse, you risk making a date such a serious proposition that its weight will force it to sink before it ever has a chance to soar.

I understand that I’m being a little confusing, but if dating were that easy, no one would have any problems with it. To be successful at dating, you have to be open, you have to be willing to be seduced, you have to allow your personalities to mix to see if there is that magical chemical reaction — all while analyzing this other person analytically.

Europeans who come to this country can find this situation confusing. It’s not that they’re not looking for love, but they prefer the ambience of their dates to be more playful, more flirtatious in order to create an atmosphere where love might bloom. So your job is to find a way of being both romantic and level-headed at the same time. It’s not easy, but it’s a skill you can develop.