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Long before he encountered the Rembrandt poster on Landrien’s office door, striking that deep emotional chord, Nouwen had taken vows as a Catholic priest. Like all Catholic priests, Nouwen was a celibate. He was committed to his vows and experienced the practice as a “holy vacancy.” In 1978, twenty-one years after taking his vows, he wrote,

The best definition of celibacy, I think, is the definition of Thomas Aquinas. Thomas calls celibacy a vacancy for God. To be a celibate means to be empty for God, to be free and open for his presence, to be available for his service.… I think that celibacy can never be considered as a special prerogative of a few members of the people of God. Celibacy, in its deepest sense of creating and protecting emptiness for God, is an essential part of all forms of Christian life: marriage, friendship, single life, and community life.… Every relationship carries within its center a holy vacancy, a space that is for the first Love, God alone. (Clowning in Rome, 43)

I believe that understanding Nouwen as a celibate is essential to understanding his response to Rembrandt’s painting of the parable as documented in The Return of the Prodigal Son.

We learn more about Nouwen’s position on celibacy from an article published in 2010 by A. W. Richard Sipe, a mental health counselor who spent eighteen years as a Benedictine monk and priest.¹⁶ Sipe recalls Nouwen’s reaction after hearing a talk that Sipe gave in 1991 called “The Celibate/Sexual Agenda.” Nouwen wrote,

I also feel there is a dimension to the issue of celibacy that is absent from your presentation and, by its absence, gives your presentation an overly strong “political” character. Somehow I think that we really need to think more deeply about the mystery of communion and start talking in a new way about sexuality from there. I am certainly not yet able to do so and I find myself quite wordless around this very sacred area. But I do feel that we have to move beyond pointing to the many weaknesses and failures in living a credible sexual ethic to a rediscovery of the deep meaning of the “vacare Deo” [to be empty for God].¹⁷

Sipe continues with a recollection of a visit he had with Nouwen at Daybreak in 1991 that sheds further light on Nouwen’s views. Sipe recounts that Nouwen’s first occupations were the subjects of meditation and spirituality (he was reading Eastern meditation teacher Eknath Easwaran at the time). He then remembers that the second topic Nouwen wanted to discuss was celibacy and sexual orientation. Sipe writes, “Mainly his questions were about orientation. What really is it? Is it possible to alter it? What are the origins? What are its implications for celibacy? How does it affect spirituality? He was not quite at a point of personal resolution then.” Sipe concludes, “Nouwen was the genuine article. He was exactly what he appeared—a priest struggling for integrity, exhausting himself in the service of others.”¹⁸

Integrity is a word that is often used to describe Henri Nouwen. It is part of his appeal to so many people. The shadow side of integrity perhaps is scrupulousness that can pinch and dry out sensuality and the pleasures of physicality. By his own account, Nouwen wanted to avoid doing something wrong. In The Return of the Prodigal Son he confesses, “Since childhood [I] have scrupulously lived the life of faith” (Prodigal Son, 66). He shares with us that he feels a kinship with the obedient elder son who saw his younger brother flaunt what was expected of him to live a life of his choosing. “And all my life I have harbored a strange curiosity for the disobedient life that I didn’t dare to live, but which I saw being lived by many around me” (Prodigal Son, 65).

We can only speculate what acts of disobedience tantalized Nouwen’s fertile imagination; but surely one of them was how to live out his sexuality as a gay man. Nouwen was never public about his homosexual orientation, and after he died many in his close circle respected his choice. Biographer Michael Ford, however, decided to tackle the subject head-on. His biography The Wounded Prophet (1999) took the thesis that much of Nouwen’s insecurity and neediness was an extension of his unfulfilled homoerotic longings. While some consider Ford’s biography to be too heavily focused on Nouwen’s “wounds” at the expense of his qualities as a “prophet,” he does have a point. Nouwen might have been able to accept celibacy as part of his priestly vocation, but it would have been harder to endure an internalized homophobia derived from the teachings of the Catholic Church.

Society’s acceptance of homosexuality changed radically over the course of Nouwen’s adult life, but in the early years of his career, homosexuality was generally seen as aberrant even in the liberal academic environments in which he circulated. The World Health Organization listed homosexuality as a health risk until as late as May 17, 1990. His father, like the majority of people in those years, thought that homosexuality was a disease.¹⁹ Indeed, Nouwen himself wrote an article titled “Homosexuality: Prejudice or Mental Illness?” for the National Catholic Reporter in 1967 in which he argues for the latter.²⁰

In the last year of his life, Nouwen described his views on homosexuality this way: “My own thoughts and emotions around this subject are very conflicted. Years of Catholic education and seminary training have caused me to internalise the Catholic Church’s position. Still, my emotional development and my friendship with many homosexual people, as well as the recent literature on the subject, have raised many questions for me. There is a huge gap between my internalised homophobia and my increasing conviction that homosexuality is not a curse but a blessing for our society” (Sabbatical Journey, 27).

Nouwen’s younger brother Laurent suggests that Nouwen sublimated his sexuality into religion; that his life, in fact, was “a battlefield between vocation and sexuality.”²¹

As true as this statement might be, Laurent Nouwen would be the first to argue that it would be simplistic to reduce Nouwen’s search for intimacy to one factor. This was, in fact, what Nouwen feared would happen if he engaged in public discourse on the subject. We can acknowledge its significance, but turn our attention to his stated search—his search for God.