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Emotion, mood and temperament are closely interrelated. I have listed some facts about their interdependence below. To bring this theory to life I have followed each with a positive example of its potential impact on someone chasing a life-dream.

Our imaginary dream-seeker is called Sophie. You’ll notice that she is brimming with an enviable amount of emotional confidence.

Our temperament influences our goals	Sophie is an optimist by nature so she sets herself a challenging New Year goal – to find the love of her life
Our goals affect our well-being; our temperament affects the actions we take to achieve these goals	She sets about energetically achieving her goal because she believes she will succeed and is confident that she can handle any disappointments she may meet en route
Our emotions are triggered by events which affect our well-being	Sophie feels happy when she meets someone who invites her to a party where she might achieve her goal
A series of the same emotions affects our moods	She is in a good mood because many good things have happened (over the course of the day) which have helped her to feel continuously happy (she achieved her target at work; the sun shone; she had a wonderfully tasty lunch and she heard the news that 105 bachelors had been invited to the party!)
Our mood influences the way we notice events which affect our well-being	Because she is in a good mood, Sophie doesn’t notice the rain and howling wind on the way to the party
Our biochemistry makes us susceptible to emotions which relate to our current mood	She is in an exceptionally good mood because she believes that she stands a fair chance of imminently achieving her goal; so instead of getting depressed about all the gorgeous competition around her, she feels calm and confident – when a stunning guy beams at her from across the crowded room
We are more likely to sustain an emotional response when we are in a mood which is in harmony with the emotion we are feeling	Sophie now feels a trickle of energizing excitement infiltrating her happy, calm mood. As an optimist who thrives on challenging goals, and totally confident that she can manage any amount of passion, she begins to …!