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I said earlier that one of the advantages of having a more refined neocortex is that we can use emotions as tools to help us survive and thrive. For example:

– if our mother tended to use ‘emotional blackmail’ to get us to do things we didn’t want to do, we are more likely to use indirect ways of ‘hooking’ other people’s compassion to get our needs met

– if we saw our uncle bullying his staff in his everyday business dealings with them, we are more likely to be tempted to use fear to motivate others

– if we have suffered a series of setbacks in the past we may have learned how to channel disappointment into new, positive activities and make it eventually work to our advantage

– if we have read a good deal of romantic poetry we may have become very skilled at how to pull heart strings through the careful use of language.