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Dear Greg,

Okay here’s a tough one. I’ve been seeing this very cool guy for a little over a month. He did everything right, in fact he is just that into me. Ha! He calls, he shows up when he says he’s going to, he’s affectionate, he’s interested in my work (I’m a barrister) and he likes my friends and family. So what’s the problem? I feel so bad even writing this, but he’s too available. I was so afraid he was going to be like so many guys I had dated before who weren’t interested in my life, but this is just the opposite. He’s almost too interested in my life, not only that but aside from his job (he’s a systems analyst) he doesn’t seem to have a life of his own. How do you tell someone to get a life? I don’t want to ruin this. How do I fix it?

Cerys

Cardiff, Wales

Dear He’s Just Too Into You

You just have to tell him the truth today because this is a relationship killer. Here’s how you do it: you tell him all the good things you just told me about him and that this relationship has real potential, but in order for it to go the distance he shouldn’t feel the need to devote so much time to you. Tell him that you’d love to do more things with his friends and family and that you also require a little alone time to recharge your battery. One of two things will happen: he will be excited at the possibility of bringing your two worlds together or you’ll find out for sure that he has no other life. If the latter is true then you will have to tell him that your requirements for a great relationship include both people having a full life and that he’s got to find other things in his life besides his job and you to bring him happiness. Hopefully he will understand. You may be doing him a giant favor but you have to be clear that this relationship will not work unless he does that. Sorry Hot Stuff, but it just won’t.