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2. Diabetes and Your Feelings15

Ask for help from family and friends. Delegate some of your other responsibilities.

Speak to a mental health professional who can help you see your frustrating issues in a more positive way.

“My wife and I used to have a nice relationship. We disagreed now and then, but that happens in all marriages. When I devel-oped type 2 diabetes, Saundra’s attitude toward me changed dramatically. She started to nag me constantly about my weight. I tried to lose a few pounds, but really struggled with it. In her opinion, I was a failure. Her friend has type 2 also, but was able to lose weight and control it with diet and exercise. I couldn’t do it because I wasn’t trying hard enough. I hate her constant nagging. She turned into some sort of SWAT team that swoops in whenever I even think about taking a piece of chocolate. Maybe she’s correct—I’m not trying hard enough. Maybe I don’t care enough about my health and my family. When my diabetes educator asked if we were having any prob-lems in the bedroom, I had to laugh. We are so angry at each other that we now sleep in separate rooms.” —Christopher

Frustration From Attempted Weight Loss

You May Feel Rejected

Diabetes goes with you wherever you go, including the bedroom. You may feel self-conscious about wearing a pump or worry about mood swings that you experience when your blood glucose level goes out of your desired range. If you worry about how your mate feels about you and your diabetes, that can carry over into the bedroom, where accep-tance and communication should be guaranteed. This concern can affect your ability to enjoy and physically react to intimacy.