Читать книгу The Fussy Baby Book: Parenting your high-need child from birth to five - Martha Sears - Страница 32

One of the most difficult mental adjustments for parents to make is overcoming the fear of “being manipulated” and “losing control”. Once you make the switch in mind-set to believing that your baby is communicating her needs, not controlling your lives, thriving and surviving with a high-need baby will be much easier.

Instead of feeling sorry for yourself that you didn’t get enough sleep, just don’t expect as much from yourself that day. Of course you’re not completely rested – you are the mother of a baby who needs you. Time spent in the mother zone is good for you and for baby. Ease up on yourself and you’ll be easier to be around. You’ll be happier getting less done. Other tasks can wait, but baby can’t.

Many mothers seem to have an internal energy gauge that magically brings in more fuel just as the tank nears empty. There will be days of incessant holding with no breaks. But just when you feel you can’t cope with another day of giving, you get a second wind, and suddenly you can relax and enjoy your baby’s unique personality blooming. Perhaps baby even senses mother’s breaking point and backs off a bit. There probably won’t be any days off, but some days will be less difficult than others.