Читать книгу The Fussy Baby Book: Parenting your high-need child from birth to five - Martha Sears - Страница 39

Not being able to satisfy a baby’s needs is very frustrating for parents of high-need babies. It seems like a direct attack on your abilities. After all, isn’t a contented baby the hallmark of effective mothering? Wrong! There will be days when you feed, rock, walk, drive, wear, and try every comforting technique known to man or woman, and nothing will work. Don’t take this as a sign of failure. You do the best you can, and the rest is up to the baby. You have not failed as a mother even if your baby is miserable much of the time. This is partly his personality and partly his immature nervous system still in need of being organized. Meanwhile, keep experimenting with one comforting tool after another, and you will eventually discover one that works – at least for that day. Then you will feel like a genius! Keep your detective hat on to find clues to your baby’s discomfort (see here and here). Constant trial and error is how you build up your baby-soothing abilities.