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Introduction: Let’s Begin

We have found that teachers, parents, military, law enforcement, government and students in business and psychology, art and the humanities, hospitals and healthcare, engineers, scientists, salesman and every day people from all over the world in colleges and universities have benefited from the concepts and skills provided in the long successful, original course.

45,000 people in total organizations and MBA classes found that it helped them to learn to build teams, to teach groups and to make their worlds a better place. This updated version has numerous advantages as a personal self-paced, remote learning system over and above group classroom training.

The full title of this e-book is Lazar Achievement Psychology™ — How to Be a Manager, Not a Managee! It supersedes the original title, The New American Leadership System™ — more simply known as (NALS™), that was not available to the public but only available to organizations as a complete system of management and leadership for training entire enterprises and portions of them.

The essential content of NALS™ is available to the general public as an e-book because hundreds of managers and leaders and their spouses have encouraged us to do it. Now it is available to everyone who wants to achieve a full measure of living, learning, loving, and laughter and then leave a solid legacy of love and character.

Advantages of Mobile, e-Learning

• Available and Accessible at any hour at any time as an ebook on computers and most devices at a very affordable price.

• Perfect for Today and Beyond when targeted directly to the Achievement of your unique goals.

• At Your Own Rate and personal attention span.

• Never Embarrassing. Enables replay in privacy until you get it right.

• Truthful Self-Assessment and Measurement increases your motivation in the privacy of the Mobile-Learning method for improvement.

At the Heart and Soul of the Achiever

This course embraces the concepts and skills of the Achiever. It is replete with stories from my own personal experience and inspirational guidance in short quotes from the ages. The knowledge offered here is timely and timeless. It is about human love . . . Caring, Respecting, Accepting, Valuing, Encouraging, and Understanding (CRAVE-U™). It’s also about Character that we define as doing Good, Right, Helpful and Better. Read on. This is the world’s most needed and proven pathway to peace and progress.

Proven Evidence

Do good guys always finish last? Answer: No. Do good people do bad things and do bad people do good things? Answer: Yes. Can people learn to be their own managers and not managees? Answer: Absolutely. Can we learn and practice the best in lessons from the great emperors, the great sports team builders and the great individual Achievers in life? Answer: Definitely! There’s more.

How do we know this? Answer: We have done it for 35 years all over the country and throughout the world (except for Antarctica.) We were paid quite well by people who believed that there were and still are much better ways to manage and lead. We were selected in a very competitive world including in higher education to do this work with more than 45,000 people worldwide. The specific case studies and real-life stories are presented to “pepper” the value of the concepts and skills and the techniques of measurement for personal improvement. Every motivated person male or female, young or old can get better with Lazar Achievement Psychology™ now available in almost any ebook reader format.

The Great Ones – Not Military Warriors

Let’s take Machiavelli. Around 1515, he wrote The Prince and explained his advice to princes in defense of their thrones and power. He saw Detractors “big time.” Detractors are people who obstruct, prevent, and diminish us. In Machiavelli’s time they were people with massive capacity to kill the prince and destroy everything around him. Throughout history and until today, the world has had countless Detractors who have caused damage and death to countless Achievers. Machiavelli was cited as one of the great proponents and writers about creating fear in those considering any potential uprising and in those ambitious enemy warriors. Having spent a good deal of time studying The Prince, I noted that Machiavelli pointed out that Love is a greater and stronger motivator than fear but that he could not recommend that course of action to a prince who is always looking behind his back and seeing people who want him dead. Thankfully others like the Emperor of the Roman Empire, Marcus Aurelius about 2,000 years ago felt and practiced notions derived from his father and teachers of the past. His was a loving course of action towards the people in Rome. They returned that love.

The Power of Love-First in You Then Out To Others

I found Marcus’ writings in To Himself to be directly and strongly consistent with our CRAVE-U™ concept of human love in Caring, Respecting, Accepting, Valuing, Encouraging and Understanding. Our own vessels need to be filled with love first. I also am certain that along with the premises of almost every great religion, he shared the idea of “Love thy neighbor as thyself,” and “Do onto others, as you would have them do unto you.” He ruled that way — as long as you were Roman!

Yes, the good guys have finished first in almost every enterprise that I have studied including the great Red Auerbach, the Boston Celtics most winning NBA basketball coach of his time. Many others can be named too.

Yet the question is, does it strongly matter to you? If you have been raised as a Decent Human Being (DHB) and you have not been totally discouraged and disillusioned by the many Detractors who have held you back from being yourself and from growing as a manager, leader, parent, teacher or board member of any organization, then Lazar Achievement Psychology™ is your answer. If you’ve gotten this far, keep reading and measuring yourself and practicing some of the really good stuff that makes good sense to you as found in this course. Find your own way to Come from Behind to Achieve Worthwhile Goals.

Put Detractors In Their Place . . . Behind You!

Use your time, which is your life, to Achieve by learning from criticism and move on with a Positive Mental Attitude (PMA). However you do it, whether or not it’s with “sticks and stones may break my bones,” find your way past and over the “Nay-Sayers” or other Detractors. They are all around all the time in everyone’s life.

Seek out and befriend Achievers and other Learner-Builders as you fully pursue your own paths with our help.

An example from my life is that I, along with others, have long felt that I need to own my statements and opinions by making “I statements” and not hiding behind “we” or “you” statements. “I” statements tend to increase the power of ownership and make it easy to tell the truth and then easier to establish mutual trust and confidence. I wrote columns for five years for a fine periodical called PrimeLife Magazine. One day I received criticism from a man who said, “Why is it always all about you?” This man was a retired high school counselor and quite bitter about many things. He got it wrong it wasn’t all about me. It was all about complete and absolute ownership of the good, bad, ugly and mundane in my experience. I overcame all of that by being a Learner-Builder who strove to find and develop new ideas in order to make to make things Good, Right, Helpful and Better for myself and all people.

Own It and Achieve These Things

I am very proud to say that most of my life has been owned by me. I was my own man and always plan to be until I leave this earth. I will say, “I did it my way!”

You can and will be the best you can be. You will win with others. You can and will be ahead of others who are suffering with the poor business and personal management practices of today. Check out the contents and jump into Lazar Achievement Psychology™ (LAP™).

Get on the pathway to Achieve your life’s most worthwhile goals and get started on creating the most rewarding time of your life.

Love Yourself — Override Detractors Who Don’t Love You

• Lead with love

• Manage with love

• Parent with love

• Teach with love

• Legislate with love

• Govern with love

• Produce products and services with love

• Gain profit for all stakeholders with love

• Master finance and technology with love

• Innovate with love

• Character-Coach with love

And Leave a Legacy of Love after you are gone.

How Do I Do This Love Thing?

Learn and practice in the privacy of your own home at your own pace with the Lazar Achievement Psychology™ e-book. Abandon notions that, “it’s simply common sense.” Those come from Detractors . . . the enemies of Achievers. Never adopt measures of violence and hurtfulness . . . unless in self-defense.

Whatever the size of the task in front of you, “albeit large or small, do it well or don’t do it at all.” Make it a goal that is worth achieving by Achievers. Only you can Achieve your life with few regrets.

Learn and then practice the winning ways of the good guys as described in the stories and case histories found here. Memorize our principles, characteristics and skills required to be a successful Decent Human Being. Be a role model of high character and someone who has consistently achieved a full measure of life.

It is Simple . . . Not Always Easy!

Regretting at Death—The Achiever Beats Them

(Paraphrased by me from the book, The Top Five Regrets of The Dying, 2011 by Bronnie Ware)

Wishing and Rationalizing Permeated All Five. I see early warning here in enough time for you to choose LAP™ ways now. It is less about courage and more about gaining skills of loving.

1. They wished they had the courage to have lived life true to themselves, not the life others expected of them. Amazingly, this was the most mentioned of all regrets. Dreams went unfulfilled because of “the others” I call Detractors.

2. They wished they hadn’t spent so much of their lives on the treadmill of work-life. (This came from every male in the study). Women also spoke of this regret. We see their decisions as ones that we prefer because other options were not clear or feasible early enough in life and all along. I knew it and paid the price while gaining much more.

3. They wished that they had expressed their feelings. Apparently they suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with other Detractors again. As a result they say they settled for a mediocre existence along with many illnesses directly related to the “bitterness and resentment” they suffered. Too late, so sad. So listen up and learn from LAP™.

4. They wished that they had made themselves happier by staying in touch with friends. Every one said they missed their friends when they died. They let friendships slip over the years. Preferences again. Most of us can and should nurture those friendships we cherish. It is within our power. Early warning . . . take heed.

5. They wished that they had realized that happiness is a choice, a decision. They stayed in old habits reinforced by Detractors. They did not face up to their own rationalizations. They wished that they had “owned” rather than rationalizing their feelings and the decisions they made that kept them from being happier. Fear of change and Detractors had them pretending to the end that they were content.

No Wishing No Fruitless Regretting — My Solutions

1. Commit to thinking and doing for yourselves and then others only Good, Right, Helpful and Better — the basics of character. All require decision-making. Practice Your Personal Victory Process in LAP™.

2. Learn the lessons of Living, Loving, Learning, Laughing and Leaving this planet as found in this volume and on my blog at Lazar Achievement Psychology.com. The sooner in life that someone sees them, reads them absorbs them and then masters them, the faster there will be less regretting at the end. The goal is “I did it and I will not regret that I did it. Man, I am happy living this way.” Some have come up with a “Bucket List” — things I must do before I die. Not a bad idea at all.

3. Being In Touch With Your Own Feelings. LAP™ shows the difference between feelings and thoughts and how to express them to reduce your stress. Leaving this life requires knowing all of these wishes and regrets will befall you should you not “own” your own lives ASAP. Then master the ways to make the decisions to maximize joy that are within your capability to do. It helps to prepare all of us to leave this life peacefully and fulfilled.

4. In the proverbial nutshell, I offer one of the most important things I have ever learned. It is this, “If you don’t do it you will always regret it and if you do it you’ll never regret it.” So decisions at every juncture have to consider the situation in terms of the short and long-term consequences. It is not always easy to assess this. But if the situation is of sufficient magnitude to you, then it makes good sense to bring this philosophy into play. For in the end and there is one for you too, living is a plethora of decisions to manage in order to Achieve Happiness and Joy and Health with you in Control of your own life.

5. The Other Skills ToAchieving: Not Regretting In our blog (LazarAchievementPsychology.com) you can find the art of expressing your feelings (Fear, Anger, Pain, Sorrow and Joy) in real time. Be the manager of your own life . . . not allowing yourselves to be a Managee, and thereby become an Achiever despite Detractors. The skill is “Ownership” not “Rationalization”. Make certain that you take full Responsibility and Accountability for your life with no excuses or blaming others right to the end. Know how to get the rewards for living with Love and Character. Never suffer the punishment to yourself by yourself.

6. Now You Will Be Prepared To Leave!

Who Are You? You are what you were before you were, what you have become, what you are now and are yet to be in eternity.

—Dr. Richard G. Lazar