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Parents must be resolute: choose your battles, and start with baby steps. Don’t waiver because youngsters can instantly sense a lack of parental confidence. Parents are a child’s first and most significant teacher by what we say, and more importantly, by what we do.

No matter the age of your children, you can start today to respond differently to them. They might be surprised and attempt to convince you to go back to “normal.” However, don’t go back; don’t be the broken vending machine.

Even if you are deeply discouraged and alienated from your children, find the optimistic part of yourself and try again. Pretend your children are stage actors. Create an emotional distance from them. Realize that in every moment, you and they choose how to behave. They may exaggerate their emotions to elicit a response from you.

Anticipate that their behavior may get worse before it gets better. This book provides a positive parenting plan. Learn the strategies and follow them, even when your children complain and tempt you to fall back into old patterns.