Читать книгу Raising Able - Susan Tordella - Страница 20

It’s easy to try something new. Imagine that I’m in front of you now, trying to pick up this book. “It’s just so heavy, I can’t get my hand around it, it’s just impossible.”

When implementing a new strategy, don’t try it. Instead, embrace it 100 percent, do it, and stick to it.

Do or not.

There is no try.

Jedi Master Yoda

Star Wars

Imagine the whole family is in a stage drama and your new behavior is dress rehearsal for the new role of a positive parent. Learn the lines and recite them with 100 percent conviction. Eventually, the lines will come naturally and create new results.

Give the new approach time to sink in. Positive family relations require practice, feedback, trying again and time. For me, it required reading, taking an 8-week class in a circle on old folding chairs in a church basement and talking about how to be different, and waking up to how my actions influenced my children’s behavior.

You can’t control your children’s behavior. You can only control your response to them. You will learn new behavior in this book.