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– Many people want you to stay big, kind, and appeasable. You know, overweight people are considered friendly and soft.

They never say “no”. This is a great benefit for others. Have you learned to say “no”? Or you have always been able to do it?

– No, not always. Life has taught me. But it’s still hard sometimes.

Nikolay Ivanovich Kosenkov, member of Petrovskaya Academy of Sciences and Arts, Ph. D. of medical science

We cannot say “no” when it corresponds to our intentions. We cherish and demonstrate in every possible way our best quality – kindness.

This is the main mindset for many people: “A kindhearted person never says “no”. They say, fat person is a kind person, because he can’t resist delicious dishes and his desire for food.

But it’s not the worst thing. N. P. Bekhtereva, an academician of the Russian Academy of Medical Sciences, established that our brain has a special mechanism, so-called “Error Detector”. This mechanism continuously monitors thoughts of a person and compares them with actions: whether they correspond to his life attitudes and rules that were formed by his conscience during upbringing and education.

If such a comparison shows that a person repeatedly acts contrary to his conscience and principles, then the “Error Detector” forces a person to correct his behavior by using psychosomatic disorders as one of the mechanisms for influence on the person. We know that obesity is considered to be a psychosomatic disorder. This is often reflected in so-called compulsive actions and thoughts. These are the first obvious symptoms of psychological distress, manifested by inner anxiety, depression, fears, sleep disturbance, decreased concentration, and mental fatigue. At first, one psychosomatic disease occurs. If a person did not make any conclusions, another disease is added, then another one. If it does not help, a person does not want to correct his thoughts and actions, and the Error Detector starts up a self-destruction mechanism through very serious diseases or injuries.

The only salvation is to live in accordance with our moral instincts.

Live in harmony with ourselves, cherish positive thoughts, be kind, but do not demonstrate this quality everywhere and always, especially when you are not asked to be kind and to impose your goodness on a person..

Group session of psychologist

Artyom Andreyevich Ovechkin:

– You are a lucky one. We’ll discuss this topic during our training for sure.

– I started to gain weight at the age of thirty-five. I’ve gained a lot of weight during the last four years. You know, hate myself sometimes.

– You shouldn’t. You know, I have an idea. Raise your hand if it is hard to say No for you… If you can’t say No… Be honest. One, two, three… Eight… Nine! Nine people! As you see, the problem is vitally important. Some people take advantage of you. They take your time, money, attention and energy. As a rule, overweight person gives everything to others again and again. Who is the one he cares the least?

– He himself.

– Yes! Exactly. Ok, we’ll work through this. You know, I’m really impressed to hear that you can say No. Great!

– Sometimes I can give a sharp refuse.

– I guess life taught you to act like that?

– Yes.

– Tayisia, what was the last straw for you?

– I’m so tired of all of this stuff! Anytime I meet a friend, I hear something like: “Oh, you are getting some weight!” And then they add:

“It doesn’t matter, you look great.”

– I bet friends notice every excess pound you gain? You gain another couple of pounds, meet your friend, and she tells you: “Oh dear me, you are getting so fat!” And she says it so joyfully that you would like to punch her, right?

– ☺

– If often happens to overweight people.

Joyful sympathy? Bingo, Elizaveta!

☺ Well, don’t worry, you will soon demonstrate your achievements to her. Let her sweat it out.

– I told my husband: “Stop gobbling up!” He looked at me and shot back: “If you are not hungry, don’t eat.”

– Is he overweight?

– No. My husband is tall. He’s got a big tummy, though. He has a job that requires hard physical labor, so…

– A woman from another group told me recently: “My husband proclaimed: “It’s not a tummy. It’s a bundle of nerves!”

– That’s exactly how my husband feels! ☺

– Do you overeat because of some stress?

– Yes.

We’ll talk about it. The problem must be settled. Snezhana?

– This year we went to the seaside. I didn’t want to go out because of my excess weight. If you want to visit some sightseeing, you have to climb into an off-roader. I just can’t do it! It’s too hard for me.

– Did it hurt your feelings?

– Of course! I’d like to go around.

– I ask these questions to make you think why excess weight disturbs you so much. I want you to realize how you feel about it physically and mentally. I bet it happened more than once.

– Yes. During that trip, one incident really disturbed me. My son is ten. He said that he wanted to have a roller coaster ride with me. But there was weight limit. I couldn’t ride with my son!

– I see. It’s really upsetting.

But I am glad that you are here. Many people feel sad, offended, and unhappy. But they go on living with excess weight and obesity and do not take any attempts to try any effective technique for weight loss.

Olga Vladimirovna Tsyganova, 28, economist, lost 110 lbs Just imagine what a great feeling it is when you meet acquaintances who you haven’t seen for a long time, and their jaws drop because they haven’t got accustomed to seeing you slim and beautiful! It is a strange feeling, funny and inspiring at the same time. It gives you desire to get even slimmer. Sympathy disappears while rivalry takes its place. Right, now you can compete with other women on equal terms! I often felt that my friends were scared. You used to be smart, but many people preferred beauties. Now you are smart and beautiful. You can outshine everyone with your charisma and appearance. You are not a drabbie anymore. But true friends are still with me. They love me even more by now, and I love myself too. It’s much easier for me to live now. I buy clothes in stores I always dreamed about, I run without any shortness of breath. I walk a lot, and – amazingly – my legs do not hurt anymore. I don’t have high blood pressure. It’s possible to get slim and maintain weight at the desired level. You live only once. It’s time to get out of your shell.