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Think of a marriage as a house of cards. If you merely place the cards together, the least little wind can bring them tumbling down. But if you glue the cards together, then they’re likely to withstand all but the strongest gale. Commitment is the glue that holds a marriage together.

Aha, you thought it was love, right? You thought that, as long as you love each other, you can make it through any storm. You’d be surprised at how many people love each other but can never stay married. Love is not missing in their life together; commitment is.

Maybe she’s more committed to her job. Maybe he’s unwilling to commit because he wants to have sex with other women. Maybe they’re both unwilling to commit in case they meet somebody who may be better for them. A lack of commitment doesn’t mean that partners don’t love each other.

Commitment will also get you through conflict. Two people can’t live together without fighting, at least occasionally. If you’re committed to each other, you’ll be able to negotiate whatever conflicts arise without damaging your relationship.