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Even though most people don’t state the word orgasm in their marriage vows, being able to derive sexual satisfaction with your spouse is certainly implied. But the sexual union between husband and wife brings more to a marriage than just the easing of sexual tensions. It also brings intimacy, which is another important component to the glue that holds the two of you together.

A marriage needs intimacy because it shows the world, and proves to the couple themselves, that they really have a special bond between them. That doesn’t mean you can’t set any boundaries, but the fewer you have, the more intimate you will be. And I’m not only talking about physical intimacy. Being naked together is certainly a good feeling, but you also have to let your partner see into your psyche. If you hide your hopes, your dreams, and your desires from your spouse, then you become strangers in some very basic areas, which is not good for a marriage.

You can also carry intimacy too far and think nothing of, say, burping loudly in front of your spouse as if he or she weren’t there. That’s not intimacy; it’s just gross. No matter how intimate you are, you should never lose respect for your partner. Now, if your intimacy stretches into the bathroom, then there’s certainly nothing wrong with exercising any bodily function in front of each other, but that notion doesn’t give you license to turn the rest of the house into a toilet.