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In the days when the only way to communicate over long distances was with pen and ink, people actually wrote to each other. Now that the typewriter is passé, and we have computers and e-mail to make writing easier, people do it less and less.

 If you have half an hour, and your spouse isn’t around, write him or her a letter. Explain how you feel so you can get a jump start when you do get the chance to talk. How your letter gets there — via post office, text, or e-mail — is up to you.

 You can also jot down brief messages on sticky notes and leave them someplace where your spouse is sure to see them. Just make sure that those short notes aren’t always passing on a chore, or your spouse will dread seeing them rather than view them as something to look forward to.

Writing yourself notes about what you need to communicate to your partner is a good idea. How many times have you said to your spouse, “I had something to tell you, but I’ve forgotten it”? If you’d written it down, you wouldn’t have that problem. So next time, do just that.

Letting communication between you and your spouse drift away into nothingness is very easy. Communication is something that you have to work at, and both of you have to put it near the top of your list of priorities.