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Make a list of activities which you know or believe could refresh you and help you to feel at peace with yourself and the world. For example:

– a walk in the park

– a long hot bath

– an aromatherapy massage

– an evening at home watching a video

– a Mozart piano concerto

– a Julio Iglesias tape

– pottering in the garden

– some early nights with a good book

– etc.

Make a list of treats which you already give yourself or could begin to give yourself as a reward for doing well or as encouragement when the going is tough. For example:

– a trip to the cinema

– an Indian meal

– afternoon tea at …

– a new book or tape

– a week-end away

Draw up a healing action plan for yourself for the next four weeks, allowing at the very least half an hour a day to be devoted to one of the above activities or treats. If possible take at least one full day’s holiday so that you can spend the entire time nurturing yourself.

If you have been very hurt and deprived by your past, you may need to consider doing an additional programme that stretches over many months if not years. Others may just need to do some short-term corrective work in certain areas, but I doubt if there is anyone who couldn’t benefit from doing something. But remember, don’t set yourself up for failure by giving yourself unrealistic tasks or goals.

Remember: we cannot always control the events which hurt us or the people who disappoint us, but the resultant reservoirs of emotional baggage are entirely at our disposal!